Thanks for the responses
1) The kill switch really is as simple as grounding it - I had a small piece of it exposed and it touched the chassis - et voila - engine killed. Took me a minute to figure that one out :)
2) I am watching an auction for the relay - I suspected that could be a reason, and if i can get that part for $20 or so - I will buy it.
I have to ass inspection soon, so I want to make sure I do - hence the worry about the electrical gremlins.
Today, I bought a new battery (just in case, $20 at Battery Plus), and a new spark plug - just to find out I do not have a plug socket (fail).
Then took the bike out for a joy ride and it started running rough and then stalled solid. I cleaned it and messed with some part of it = but apparently messed something up .... just another day in getting it solid :)
Thanks for the advice . with the pointers, even the wiring diagrams are making a little bit more sense :)