thanks for your concern, I guess you could say I wasn't respecting the ped. There definitely won't be any more riding while prego, that's for sure; but i'm not certain whether i'd say that because I was stupid before, or i'm too rattled now.
I kinda have to agree with Fergy, pregnancy is a phenomenon that evokes a certain unfounded worry in people. We get constant advice from amateur OBGYN's about how "you shouldn't do this when you're pregnant" or "you need to do this".
Smoking or drinking while pregnant is stupid, because exposure in any amount is dangerous. Other things like riding a bike or driving a car are simply "potentially dangerous". Next weekend we're driving 18 hours to Canada and back, and people would think I was being overly cautious if I cancelled our trip because of the risk of getting in an accident. In truth, however, the potential for one of us to lose a life will be much greater since fatalities in collisions jump drastically at speeds higher than 65mph, and the amount of time spent on the road also increases the odds of something going wrong.
My point is, what happened was an accident, I'd say motorcycles are _fuckin_ dangerous, an unkitted moped doing 10mph is only _mildly_ dangerous; nobody batted an eyelash at my wife riding her ten speed around town with no helmet, but put her on something that looks faster or has a stigma of reckless behaviour attached to it, and no amount of reasoning with certain people will shut them up. the biggest risk in any potentially dangerous situation is going to be uncontrollable variables like other drivers, and once the baby is born, his odds of getting crushed by some careless trucker aren't going to decrease, they're only going to get higher and higher as he matures.
on a humorous note, a few days before the accident I was joking that there are so many products that sell themselves now by promoting new dangers for moms to worry about; and I was going to cash in on the trend by inventing a hard shell "belly helmet" for pregnant women.