Re: How to get Support for a Hobby

• Author: rei (---.hsd1.mn.comcast.net)
• Verified User: blackkat
• Date Posted: 03-24-08 15:06

think in skill sets for discussion purposes with a parent.

your hobby, mopeds, is teaching you mechanical, problem solving, research, negotiating skills, as well as patience, time and money managing. these skills can be applied to many other goals in life.

you can give them their argument that it is perhaps in their eyes a short term thing, but only time will tell, and if you dont try new things, how will you know if something is right for you. you are experimenting with life right now, and that is what you should be doing at your age, finding out what you want to do and not do.

having opposing views to your parents is a challenge. learning how to get along with people in a civil manner even though you dont agree is a coping skill we all must learn being part of any community, whether school, the work place or at home. your parents are giving you practice in opposing someone with authority over you, always hard to swallow, but it is possible to work out.

showing you can keep a level head proves to any adult that you are growing in the right way.

you may never get support from your parents for your hobby, but you may gain their respect.

as to that vespa or any future acquisition, have a plan b, friends with cars or storage space that will help you. one kid in town here is taking a 2 cycle class at his high school, and his project ped was there for a while.

if you can talk to your parents about their objections to your hobby. they may have other fears, like taking away from school studies, or getting with the wrong crowd. if you know what the issues are, it gives you possible actions to counter the fears, and possible negotiating room. do this when you are not in a hurry to negotiate anything like picking up that vespa.

good luck.